Faeries likes and dislikes

You do not have to believe in faeries. You must be willing to objectively see what’s going on around you, but you don’t have to believe.

The faeries are real, whether you believe in them or not. They won’t stay where they’re ignored or ridiculed, but they are very, very real.

I fully realize how odd it sounds, to say that I see faeries and interact with them. I mean, I would never mention this in conversation at a corporate cocktail party, and expect to be taken seriously!

However, I really do see them, and others do too, regardless of how they explain them. Even complete skeptics notice the flitting lights and shadows in our home, and often ask what they are. Sometimes I say, “I don’t know,” which is true. At other times, I’ll admit, “We think they’re faeries.”

Regardless of the explanation, the visitor will usually comment that he/she is still seeing these odd little things, later.

So, if you raise an eyebrow as you read this, it’s okay. I know that, whether or not you believe in them, you will see them if they’re nearby.

It will take an open mind to accept their reality.

How to attract faeries

How do you attract faeries? Like other beings, faeries have their own likes and dislikes. It’s difficult to say, “Oh, this will definitely work,” because they’re just like you and me in that respect.

We have our own reasons for going places.

For example, I love libraries but if the librarians are snooty, I won’t go back a second time.

So, if you don’t let the faeries know that you are aware of them and appreciate them, they may not return.

Here are common likes (and dislikes) of faeries:


  • Tidiness, order, and cleanliness, especially in the kitchen
  • Bread and cake – little bits set out in the evening
  • Something that clearly invites them. The faerie door is a good example.
  • Milk or water, set out in the evening, perhaps in a nice thimble (but not one made of iron or steel)
  • Glittery and shiny things – small bells, marbles, jewelry (no iron or steel)
  • Music – light, happy music, even singing in the shower can help
  • Low lighting – they are most often seen at dusk and dawn, but a small candle (electric is okay) can guide them to your home


  • Iron things. Especially scissors left out in plain view. Pins, knives, anything made of iron will frighten them, sometimes.
  • Clutter, disorder, stacks of things that haven’t been sorted, and so on
  • Bells. I know that some faeries like bells, but they are their own bells. If your cat wears a bell, or you have a very rude alarm clock, or something like that, the noise may drive away the faeries.
  • Water. Many “psychic” experiences are attributed to a deep, hidden stream under a building. Some faeries are the opposite: They don’t like to cross a stream, hidden or visible. (Then again, we have plenty of faeries who live in or near the water, so this isn’t a firm rule.)
  • Looking them in the eye. It is said that you can gain control over a faerie, especially a Leprechaun, if you look him/her straight in the eye and hold that gaze.

Forest illustration by Timo Balk
Used with permission.

210 thoughts on “Faeries likes and dislikes”

  1. I have enjoyed the company of the Unseelie for years now. Its not always pleasant, but they have offered me no real pain or discomfort. They speak very seriously amd look unkindly on the Seelie. I have heard they were the first and will be the last. I want to plan a trip to search for more in darker Europe. Advice?

  2. I loved this and so did my best friend we are 16 and thought of this very clever. We were wondering if it is possible that if you were nod born a fairie if you could become one

  3. Sorry but I disagree just because you can’t see something doesn’t mean that it isn’t there . I can talk from first hand experience that fairies are real and saying that you don’t believe effects their health . My great great grandfather was a german nëck fea and that blood was passed down to me so saying that offends me. Also his name was saint Nichols and he was german too .he delivered presents a long long time ago and then he just grew old and passed away. So ya they are all real wether you like it or not.

    1. Rachael, I’m sorry that you were offended by something said here, but I try to approve most comments, whether I agree with them or not.

      Speaking of that: I’m not convinced that simply saying you don’t believe affects the health of a faerie.

      It was a charming bit of fiction in Peter Pan when, to restore Tinker Bell’s strength, people were asked to say they did believe in faeries.

      No two people will share the same exact opinions about faeries; sooner or later they’ll encounter differences. In some cases, that’s due to cultural context – nearly all faerie lore is similar in many ways, but there are distinct differences between, say, Native American faerie lore and Asian faerie lore.

      And, if someone visits this website just to insist that faeries aren’t real, I usually wonder whether they’re trying to convince themselves more than us.

      I approve some unkind comments, simply to remind people that – even at this website – opinions can vary, widely. I discard about 95% of snarky comments, on both sides of the argument. I want this site to be realistic about faeries – both the sweet, gentle ones, and the mischievous, difficult ones. And, for me, part of the realism is remaining aware of public beliefs and blatant misunderstandings about faeries, and responding to comments as best I can.

      Sincerely, Fiona

  4. One more thing to G one thing that really offends faeries is being called a demon so sorry. Also not everything is evil

    1. Rachael, assuming you were replying to a 2010 comment: G wasn’t saying that faeries are demonic. He (or she) was concerned about his experiences, and whether he should be concerned. I doubt that he thought faeries are demons. The problem is, demons seem to mimic many things. Though paranormal researchers most often find them mimicking ghosts, there’s no reason to assume that a demon couldn’t mimic what we consider faerie characteristics.

      And then there are the faeries in the Unseelie Court, and they might easily be confused with something bordering on evil; sometimes, they do very not-nice things. Remember, until around Shakespeare’s time, people had so many unpleasant – and sometimes frightening – encounters with faeries, they assumed that all of them were malicious. Puck’s closing monologue in “A Midsummer Night’s Dream” helped change those attitudes.

      Sincerely, Fiona

  5. I met a fairy in Scotland and he was very kind, almost like a small animal, but with intelligent eyes. I stayed in a fairy glade on the Isle of Arran overnight and he appeared to me around sunset. I knew I could not break eye contact with him or he would be gone, so I beckoned him over and thanked him for letting me visit. It occurred to me that I had a little bread and cheese in my pack, so (without looking away) I carefully brought it out and offered him a piece. I had also bought some Highland scotch earlier, so I poured him a capful, and we sat there for a little while eating bread and cheese and sharing the whiskey. He never said a single word, so I started talking instead. Told him about who I was, where I was from, and how it was similar to his own country in some ways. I was telling him about bluegrass music, and I decided to pull out my phone and played him a song. He really liked that – his face got a big smile on it and he sat there rocking back and forth until it was over. Then, he got up, did a little bow, and walked off.

    Later that night, as I was setting up my sleeping bag, the fairies did play a little trick on me. All at once, the change that I was carrying in my pocket sprang out and flew all over the ground. I knew it was the fairies, so I didn’t get mad, but instead admitted aloud that it was a good joke. I managed to find most of my money again in the dark, minus one 50-pence piece. I said they could keep it: 50 pence is a small price to sleep with the fairies.

    I made a good dinner for myself and drank the rest of the Scotch, and had a great night sleep nourished by the babbling of a brook nearby. I awoke feeling very rested, and carefully gathered up all my belongings before thanking the fairies and departing.

  6. But what if anything can be done to appease the naughty fairies or for that matter find out if they are poltergeists. Mine have been making a lot of attempts to catch my attention lately. Ringing bells and making wing noises when I start my dance classical Indian practice. I noticed this started happening after and where I opened some Ayurvedic chakra incense. So I’m wondering if they like incense or something.

  7. Hi again Fiona I have not seen any Fay since 2017 and sence my last update my dog and cat passed on but I still have the oldest male dog caine I’ve been taking care off other dogs aswell but the reson I’m righting is I’ve a conspercy of Ravens that live nearby and on the chinese NEWYEAR It dropped a miniature pink plastic pig made in Germany Can it be a fairie changed into a Raven or are Ravens that smart ?

    1. Hi, Shawn! What an extraordinary experience, and on Chinese New Year as well. I’m intrigued by this.

      Ravens are intelligent, but I’m not sure they’re that intelligent. It’s possible it was a faerie. My best advice is to see which makes the most sense to you. Whichever it is, you’re probably right. (I’m a strong believer in personal impressions.)


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